When Women and Men Do Their Work: Empathy and Courage Can Be Seen
Many men say they want to be more emotionally open- and when they try, it doesn't always go well. They risk a moment of honesty, only to see their vulnerability land with discomfort, confusion, or even withdrawal from the person they most hoped would understand. That moment-when one person reaches out and the other flinches-is often not about a lack...
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Therapy Isn't Just for Crisis: How It Supports Personal Growth
Many people first reach out for therapy when something feels unbearable—a relationship breaks down, work becomes unmanageable, or anxiety makes it hard to focus. In those moments, therapy can be a lifeline. But what many men don't realize is that therapy doesn't have to stop when the crisis does. In fact, some of the most meaningful work begins once the...
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Grounded Strength: How to Listen to What Your Body's Telling You
Most of us grow up hearing that strength means staying in control. Keep it together. Don't let them see you sweat. Push through. And yet, when life hits hard - when you feel anxious, disconnected, or weighed down - your body often knows it before your mind can catch up. The tightness in your chest, the clenched jaw, the restless...
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Why Your Emotions Feel Stuck: The 90-Second Rule and the Weight of Self-Judgment
You've probably noticed this before: something hits you hard - anger, sadness, fear - and it lingers for hours. Sometimes all day. Other times, it sneaks back in days later when you thought you were past it. Emotions can feel relentless, unpredictable, and stronger than you'd like them to be. But here's the truth: emotions themselves are actually short-lived. Neuroscientist...
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Why You Might Be Numb Instead of Angry (and What That Really Means)
You might not think of yourself as angry. You just shut down. You go quiet, go inside, try to keep the peace-or stay out of the mess altogether. From the outside, it probably looks like you're calm and composed. But inside, it might feel like the lights have dimmed. You're not mad, exactly… you just don't feel much of anything. If that...
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Is Self-Criticism Helping You—or Hurting You?
Many men and women believe that being hard on themselves is what drives them to succeed. You may even hear that “tough love” is the only way to grow. But what if your inner critic is doing more harm than good? As a therapist who works often with men facing negative self-talk, I see how self-criticism can become a constant...
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